I have not been able to blog for a long time. I find typing for even a short period of time often means real discomfort. However, if I end up in pain for writing this, it is nothing compared to what those grieving in Florida over lost ones are feeling. So, I could not keep quiet.
While this post is in the form of a prayer, I don't think it need be. I think this can be read as a plea for decency.
June 14, 2016
Father God,
It seems You are taking me from frightened to thankful this morning. You know how really alarmed I was when I awakened and my entire left side felt tingling and somewhat numb. I don’t like it that my right thumb is taking longer to stop shaking. For the first time I am really scared, God.
But You are redirecting my thoughts away from myself. And while I know that is good and right, and what You would have me do, I don’t want this heaviness in my heart, either. I want to stay more detached from the people in Florida who are right now grieving. I don’t want to think about how, at times, they will have trouble getting their next breath. I don’t want to think about how a wave of physical sickness will periodically wash over them. I don’t want to think about parents having to plan their sons’ and daughters’ funerals. I worry about the condition of the body that a parent or loved one who has to identify. I can’t imagine the frustration and anger there must be and the need to know why. Please, God, don’t ask me to think too much about all of those poor loved ones left behind. Emotional pain can be so much more intense than the physical. I don’t want to, in any small way, experience their pain!
And yet, maybe this is a gift; the fact that I will have to be careful today and take it easy. Maybe what is most probably out in the world today would be equally painful to me, or more so. Do you want me to pray, Lord? Is that what you want me to do? How can I possibly know what to pray or how to pray over a situation like this? The only thing I can think is to focus on the families. Please do not expect me to consider anything else.
Maybe that is the prayer right there:
Father,
Please let the hurting families be what is important now. Help all of us to be able, to some extent, imagine what condition we would be in if it were happening to us, to our families.
I know the inevitable will happen, Lord. It has most likely already begun. People will begin to debate what caused the massacre. Each will put forth his/her side and defend it vehemently. I am asking that You give us the sensitivity to wait, Father God. Let all of us, on whatever side of the gun, mental illness and / or terrorist issues, or any others, wait until after the families have at least buried the ones lost to them. Please, please fill us with that much compassion. Let us remember that Jesus hung on a cross and said nothing about His rights. Rather He prayed for all of us. Instill in us just a little of what He was in that moment.
I know that is naive; that it will not happen, particularly with all of the different social media outlets we have now. I don’t understand all of the differences between them. And all I want to understand is that they could be used for good right now. They could be used to reach out and extend our sympathies to people we don’t even know. Sadly, our family has learned that people can’t really help when tragedy strikes. But somehow, knowing people care and that they would change the situation if they could is immensely comforting. I have yet to understand why. I just know it is true.
Well, actually I should know more, shouldn’t I? And shame on me for not realizing it before now. We were designed that way, weren’t we? That is why during Jesus’ time on earth He reached out to the hurting. How could I have forgotten that He wept with Lazarus’ sisters? So, let me ask again, Father God, that You help us to weep with the families. Make us the strength and comfort they need. Let that be our reaction.
The last thing I can think to pray, Lord, is for You to give a lot more people a Muslim friend. Thank You for mine. Thank You that she has taught me much about living a life that would be pleasing to You. Allow others to have a friend who will live out compassion by doing something such as to stop wearing earrings because her friend had cancer on an ear and can no longer wear them. And allow them to have one who draws no attention to that kindness. Allow them to have one like mine, who was embarrassed when her kindness was pointed out. Please, Father, allow others the privilege of knowing those who live out the true Islam religion.
So, I am ending up thankful; not of my own doing, of course. Thank You, God, that my view today will be limited to our bedroom window. If You are sparing me the discouragement of seeing a different response to this heartbreak than what I am praying for here, thank You.
Meditations of My Heart
Tuesday, June 14, 2016
Monday, September 28, 2015
Pope Francis - We Should Take Lessons
I like
history. So, although I do not regularly
listen to or read any news, I did, to a certain degree, keep track of Pope
Francis’ visit to the US. And I’m so
glad I did. I got a powerful view of what Christianity should look
like. I’m not Catholic, but I can
certainly say that, from my perspective, Pope Francis’ behavior and words reflect
so much more closely the God we believe in than the actions and speeches of far
too many of our U.S. protestant leaders.
I’m sure many would disagree with me. But I challenge anyone to carefully review
the assertions of our Christian leaders.
Don’t just look at the issues they speak about; opinions with which you
agree. Look at the entire context of
their speech, ignoring the issue or person about whom they are speaking.
They talk
about themselves; what they have done. They
make sure to emphasize how they are badmouthed; how they are mistreated and
discriminated against because they are Christian. With disappointing regularity it’s all about them. They talk about others or to them in
disrespectful terms. They make
statements about others that are glaring examples of a judgmental nature.
I also
encourage anyone to go one step further.
Try and find documentation of how frequently these leaders humble
themselves and actually go to those in need.
I’m not talking about at the time/s of some natural disaster or war
contrived by a few. I’m referring to
places like those the Pope has taken time to visit. He met with abuse
victims. He went into a prison.
I found that particularly touching and
especially illuminating. Pope Francis reassured the inmates that “all of us have something we need to be
cleansed of, or purified from.” Wow! Here is the religious leader of an estimated
1.2 billion (with a “B”) people. He
isn’t just a national figure. He is a
world figure. AND, he is a head of
state. Nonetheless, in addition to the
White House and the United Nations, he included a prison in his itinerary. I remind myself that this is the same man who
imitated his Lord once by washing the
feet of both the elderly and the young.
So, this visit is another demonstration of a man trying to live out his
faith .
One of the
huge number of people at the Mass in Philadelphia concisely expressed my point
of view, saying, “It’s a(n) historic
moment...This is a guy who has caught the attention of everyone. He’s everyone’s pope. Non-Catholics, even atheists.”
And another
verified my contention that the Pope’s speech and activities do not lift
himself up; they mirror the savior he believes in, “We are having a blessed time.
The weather is beautiful, the people are beautiful. All these Christians who want to celebrate
the good news of Jesus Christ.”
Leaving Church Frustrated and Angry - Over Healthcare
So, the 65
year old mother of one of the guys in my small group at church has breast
cancer. Last week she was admitted to
the ICU of the hospital in the Florida community where she lives.
It has been
difficult for her son who lives here, a good 10 hours away. This is especially true since his father is
disabled and in a wheelchair. When he
first learned his mother had cancer he had hoped to get there for a good visit
and see what he could do for both parents.
He now has no idea how he can possibly go unless the worst happens. Why?
Because of medical expenses for his 12 year old daughter.
Several
times she was sent home from school due to an acute headache and resulting illness. At one point in time she had to be taken to
the emergency room. Her speech had
become slightly slurred, her vision was somewhat affected and she had some
numbness down one arm. An MRI showed no
brain tumor. However, in due course, she
was diagnosed as having severe migraines.
But surely,
medical insurance would pay for most of the emergency room visit and an MRI on a child, right? Absolutely.
Just as soon as an annual deductible of $3,000 is met. To those who have always had excellent
medical insurance coverage and/or have $3,000 that doesn’t sound horrible, does
it? BUT, some, even with both husband
and wife working, simply cannot afford $3,000 per year in medical bills. And this young family is in this
category.
Later, when
I had an opportunity to talk with the couple privately, I asked if they minded
sharing with me how a family handles medical expenses that cannot be paid all
at once. Here’s what I was told.
Previously
you received a bill and you paid the hospital whatever amount you were able to
each month. Now, unfortunately, the
hospital does not do its own billing. A
third party administrator does that. AND, you must pay 8% interest on any unpaid balance. I repeated that in order to be sure I heard
correctly. Sadly, and what I think should be to our extreme
shame, I had.
They went on
to say that because the interest on their credit card is less than 8% they had
paid the bill in full and now had to work to pay off that credit card balance
of $2,800. Of course, come January 1st
the deductible for their medical insurance would start over at $3,000. So, should there be any other medical bills in
2016 that are beyond their ability to pay immediately, that amount would have
to be added to this balance of $2,800.
Now you know
why I left church totally irritated. Not
good, I know. But truthful. At issue for me is the fact that, all too
frequently, I hear it proudly asserted that we are a “Christian” nation. We Christians believe we have received grace,
although we do not, in any way, deserve it.
We believe in loving others as ourselves.
I left
church wondering just how many of the Christians I know would want to:
· Have several frightening incidences
concerning their child’s health?
· Worry about not only paying medical
bills, but paying interest on any balance?
· Have that worry while also having a
very ill parent?
· Wonder if they could afford to go
visit that sick parent and be unsure, only because of debt incurred
while trying to get help for their child?
I dare say
none.
So what has
our Christian stance been with respect to healthcare? We have bought into the very non-Christian
idea, promoted by Christian leaders, that some people don’t pay taxes, but want
healthcare; that they should have to pay something into the system in order to
get something. (These Christian leaders
are referring to income taxes, but fail to make that clear. They don’t mention that these people pay
sales tax; that would weaken their argument and some Christians might not get
as indignant as needed.) We have bought
into the idea that we don’t want to pay for these; they really don’t deserve
it.
We have NOT
given thought about those who are just like how many of us would describe
ourselves: people who work hard, who are
raising (or have raised) good kids, who attend church regularly, who pay income
taxes. The difference is that they have
less than we do. We assume it is their
fault. The unspoken assumption is that
others are guilty until proven innocent.
We do such a
pathetic job of using the intellect we believe God Himself gave us. We don’t stop to consider that maybe some are
gifted for jobs that, although critical to all of us, simply do not pay
well. We don’t stop to consider maybe
they are helping (or have been helping) parents who are sick and/or
disabled. We don’t stop to consider that
in addition to worrying about medical expenses, these families have no idea how
they will help their child(ren) go to college.
And it’s all
because we are so afraid someone will get something s/he does not deserve. And we don’t want any of what we’ve worked
for to be taken from us. Now, although
we believe in always giving thanks, we don’t believe it applies to being
thankful that we were given the intellect, the right parents, the educational
opportunities AND ongoing health to accomplish what we think we
have.
So, if I do
a school exercise of comparing and contrasting, just how might we Christians
compare to Jesus Himself; the One for whom we say we live; the One who gave
up everything for us, although we say we were and are undeserving?
To get an
honest, straightforward answer I think I would like to talk to non-Christians
or atheists; you know, the ones we Christians say just don’t understand because
they don’t believe in the God we do.
Were I one to bet, I would bet they would see no real similarities
between us and Jesus. But I sincerely
imagine they would see our behavior as completely contrasting that of
Jesus. And you know something, I feel very sure I
would win that bet.
But I do
know one thing for sure. I know that no
one of any other faith, no one who is agnostic, and no one who is atheist could
be more disgusted with Christians than I.
And I include myself. I do so
because I have not been assertively adamant with Christian friends at church or
anywhere else about just how selfish we are and about just how NON-Christian we
really are. Shame, shame on me!!!
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
My Brother's Suggestion
Okay, my brother is like super, super smart. You know, the off the chart kind of smart. Just keep that in mind.
So, a while back, I was asking his opinion about programs that type what I am saying, exactly as my Android phone does for texting or sending emails. I was looking for ways to continue my writing "therapy" as my neck problems now frequently make sitting at the computer really troublesome. My intent is to do my best to "journal" my journey towards eventual neck surgery, as opposed to the alternative.
So, he explains these programs to me, but says he wants to make another suggestion. "What's that?', I ask.
"A verbal journal", replies he and proceeds to tell me how to record my voice and send it as an email, post it on Allan's Facebook and/or post it on my blog. Who knew?
I'm intrigued, of course, being the very techy person I am. But accepting that I am not the most succinct person, I want to know about editing. "How would I go about editing?", I innocently inquire.
"Well, that would be difficult."
"So, what does that mean exactly?" I persist.
Knowing it is I to whom he is speaking, he still responds with "I guess you'd really just want to get it right the first time."
I did mention just how smart he is right?
So, a while back, I was asking his opinion about programs that type what I am saying, exactly as my Android phone does for texting or sending emails. I was looking for ways to continue my writing "therapy" as my neck problems now frequently make sitting at the computer really troublesome. My intent is to do my best to "journal" my journey towards eventual neck surgery, as opposed to the alternative.
So, he explains these programs to me, but says he wants to make another suggestion. "What's that?', I ask.
"A verbal journal", replies he and proceeds to tell me how to record my voice and send it as an email, post it on Allan's Facebook and/or post it on my blog. Who knew?
I'm intrigued, of course, being the very techy person I am. But accepting that I am not the most succinct person, I want to know about editing. "How would I go about editing?", I innocently inquire.
"Well, that would be difficult."
"So, what does that mean exactly?" I persist.
Knowing it is I to whom he is speaking, he still responds with "I guess you'd really just want to get it right the first time."
I did mention just how smart he is right?
Tuesday, September 8, 2015
Commentary About Healthcare
Notes:
~ I wrote this on August 31st but am just now able to get it posted.
~ This post is reflective of my frustration and disgust with not only our healthcare system, but also the point of view of so many of my fellow Christians.
~ If you are not a Christian, nor hold any religious beliefs, this post should still not offend you. In fact, if you are as baffled by and as sick of us Christians as I am, read on!
Sunday
morning and I’m ironing a blouse for church.
I recall that just a few years ago Trista spent one summer cleaning
houses and for one extremely wealthy family, doing the ironing. I think back on the various types of work she
has done and a recent experience when she was ill that I found especially
frustrating.
Her first
job was during her senior year of high school, working at a local
pharmacy. Since that start, before
getting more permanent jobs and in between, she did tutoring, taught
part-time at 3 different colleges around
the Cincinnati area, provided all day childcare, worked as a waitress, and taught
summer classes. I feel like I am
forgetting some job that should be part of that list, but my point is made, I
think.
She worked
hard enough during her college years to be offered a fellowship. So she spent two years completing her
master’s degree while teaching classes, and working weekends at Pedro’s
Restaurant.
She spent years teaching at Cape Fear Community College. Currently, in
addition to teaching her own Zumba classes, she is also a Zumba Jammer, meaning
she trains Zumba instructors. She
teaches a number of different types of fitness classes at the YMCA and the Hospital
Employees’ Fitness Center, has personal training clients, and if necessary,
fills in at the desk of the Health Center.
Even if she
were not my daughter I would call the person who has been willing to do all
this as a hard worker. So the fact that
not long ago she was turned away from an Urgent Care center because her type of
medical insurance was not
accepted and had to go searching for a facility that would accept her insurance I had found particularly
exasperating.
But not
wanting to begin my day on a frustrating note and having finished ironing my
blouse, I let it go and discipline myself to stop thinking about what I see as the
unfairness of it all.
My small
group at church are all younger than I.
We begin “class” with prayer, asking if anyone has a particular prayer
request. Oddly enough, medical benefits
are mentioned. One group member has been
offered a new job she would like to take.
But, she is concerned about medical benefits. Her husband is currently the victim of
downsizing and is looking for a new position.
Both she and he are most worried about having medical insurance; the
income being secondary.
Yet another
young woman went through a fairly recent employment change. For her also, the source of anxiety had been
medical benefits. Although literally a
“small” group, at least five in the group have been in the same dilemma at some
point in time.
The Small
Group ends and I go to the sanctuary to attend service. While waiting, I once again, like I have so
frequently in the past, question the current assertion that we are a Christian
nation, built on Christian principles. I
deliberately set aside the instances of hard working people I personally know
who have been apprehensive about being without medical coverage. Likewise, I refuse to consider the man I
know, still working after 45+ years, whose contractually provided medical
insurance was simply taken away. He had
to withdraw $26,000 from retirement savings for medical expenses.
I focus
instead on just what “Christian” is. I
look around at the symbols of the Christian faith: the cross, the stained glass
windows depicting Jesus interacting with others, the Bible alongside the hymnal
on the back of the pew in front of me. I
contemplate the words associated with the Christian belief and concentrate on
the one most often used to define this religion, “grace”. When
speaking of “grace” we emphasize that it is “undeserved”. Grace absolutely excludes
“merit”.
On their
own, my thoughts drift back to fears of some in Small Group and to Trista’s
experience. I think on the fact that I hear
universal healthcare is unfair because some do not pay taxes. So, if I understand correctly, we, the
Christian nation, determine a basic human need on merit, on what a
person contributes. I look back at the
cross in front of the sanctuary.
Thinking of our society outside the church, I see, superimposed on that
cross, the faces of America’s founding fathers; and the U.S. Constitution. My thoughts shift quickly to another
principle of Christianity; that of our sinfulness. I get confused.
We, as a “Christian”
nation, rather than use the person of Jesus and the foundational principle of
grace to define Christianity, we use the persons who founded our country and
the document they conceived, to determine our actions. And in wanting to punish those we judge
and perceive to be undeserving, we also mistreat those we probably would count
as worthy and eligible were we not so busy pridefully touting our Christianity
and using as proof our heritage born from men; men who Jesus, when looking down
from that cross, saw them just as He sees us, as flawed and sinful people totally undeserving of anything.
I’m still
confused. But I am glad to be in church
where I can glimpse what true Christianity looks like; every human equally
loved and appreciated, everyone being of equal status and our realization of
the truth that God does not categorize any of us as deserving.
Sunday, June 14, 2015
A Conversation with Natalia
NOTE: I wrote this on June 2nd and am just now getting around to posting it. The governor of Texas has since signed into law the right of gun license holders to carry concealed handguns on public college campuses. Some of the state's top universities opposed the bill. So the law does allow for college presidents to designate "gun-free zones". Our own state of North Carolina had already passed a law allowing guns to be taken into bars and public parks.
If you are a gun rights advocate, please do not bother to leave a comment should you stumble upon this post. I ask that because if you read what I have written you should see that I am sharing another way to look at an issue. If that does not work for you, just remember I have the right to express my point of view.
If you are not at all religious, just skip the last two paragraphs. I left my opinion about some Christians and their view of gun rights last because it doesn't have to be part of the post. I just wanted to express my views about that issue as well and thought it worked out okay by adding it at the end.
I awoke this
morning thinking of the tragedy of Sandy Hook Elementary. I assume that is because today is the first
National Gun Violence Awareness Day. I
began to think about conversations between grandparents and grandchildren over
the growing up years, conversations the grandparents of the little victims will
never get to have. The following is one
I would like to have had with Natalia once she was able to understand abstract
concepts.
Grandma, did you know today is the
first National Gun Violence Awareness Day?
As a matter
of fact, Sweetheart, I did. But how do
you know that?
I saw it on the internet when I was
going to Facebook to see if Grandpa had posted anything new.
It made me remember how hard you
cried when those little kids were shot at Sandy Hook Elementary. That really upset you, didn’t it?
Oh my
goodness, yes. And it still does,
Natalia honey.
I had dinner at my friend Erica’s
house the other day. Her dad was complaining
about people who want more laws for gun control. He said that guns don’t kill, people do and
that if gun control is increased it won’t prevent criminals from having
guns. That’s actually true, isn’t it,
Grandma?
It is
absolutely true. However, from my
perspective that is not how we view other laws.
What do you mean?
Well, I can
give you a couple of examples. Let’s
start with background checks. Before I
could volunteer at the hospital they had to do a criminal background check on
me, right? The hospital needed to know
that they were not putting anyone at risk of harm by allowing me to help work
with very sick babies. They have that responsibility. So I had to go through an application process
that included checking on my background.
That provided valuable information about whether or not it was
appropriate for me to be given the opportunity to volunteer.
I have to
say that I just do not see any difference when it comes to waiting periods and
background checks for gun ownership.
Shouldn’t we expect that, as a society, we have the responsibility to
attempt to prevent guns from falling into the hands of those who simply should
not have them? Perhaps I’m wrong, but
honestly, sweetheart, I cannot think of another area in which we throw up our
hands and say laws should not be in place because either those who do not obey
the law anyway will just find a way around it or that it is taking away the
rights of those who do obey the law.
Like what kinds of other laws?
We can’t get
a driver’s license without proof of a certain level of competence to drive a
vehicle and knowledge of road safety. We
have speed limits, road signs and lines on the road in order to protect drivers,
passengers and pedestrians. We have
reduced speed limits in school areas. We
have laws against driving under the influence. It is my understanding that all states have
what is called a “dram shop law”. That
law says that a lawsuit can be brought against an establishment that serves
alcoholic drinks if a patron of that restaurant or bar gets drunk and is in an
accident. Depending on the evidence, the
establishment can be held accountable.
The danger to others of a driver impaired by alcohol is understood and
there is an attempt to prevent harm and or loss.
Another
example is found in the pharmacy. We
realize that some medications can be addictive so we have laws that restrict
their use. The Drug Enforcement
Administration regulations put responsibility on doctors for the proper
prescribing and dispensing of controlled drugs.
But regulations also address the responsibilities of the pharmacist who
fills the prescription. The pharmacist
is to be vigilant to verify that the medication is for a “legal medical purpose”. Since it was discovered how to use
decongestants like Sudafed to make hard core drugs, I am required to show ID
and sign a form in order to purchase a bottle of Sudafed. Law compels a pharmacist to ensure this
process is followed.
Let’s use
just these two examples and apply the logic that is the basis for argument
against gun regulation. Given the
very true assertion that a person, not a gun, actually kills, then isn’t it
also true that neither a car involved in an accident, nor a decongestant used other
than according to directions are not at fault for killing or injuring? Isn’t it true that the person driving a car
or the one who is making hard core drugs must accept responsibility? How often, in reality, honey, is a person NOT
going to be involved? Perhaps in very
infrequent occurrences like being hit by lightning. So, how is it that stating such a very
obvious, widespread truth is considered a valid defense against some gun
regulation? Why is it not the basis on
which decisions are made regarding legislation for or against just about
everything else?
Of course,
the response to that question, Natalia honey, is going to be that cars and
Sudafed are not protected by the Second Amendment. Like we’ve said, true. However, the fact that we have had additional
amendments to our Constitution over time certainly indicates how dynamic
society is. We’ve had to address very
major issues such as slavery, the right to vote, succession to the Presidency,
etc. We have had to view our
Constitution as a dynamic document, one to assure freedoms and protect rights
as society changes and injustices and unaddressed issues have been identified. Why do we not see that accepting the changes
in “arms” since the addition of the Second Amendment and responding accordingly
does not have to mean the right is taken away?
Why shouldn’t we recognize the peril to everyone when a gun is sold to
anyone without an attempt to determine how suitable that person is to possess a
firearm? If we expected that, how would
we be treating the person selling the gun any differently than we treat the
bartender, the doctor and the pharmacist? How would that be taking anyone’s Second
Amendment right away?
So laws would treat different dangers
to all of us the same way, right? That
seems fair. That wouldn’t take away the
right of people like Erica’s dad to have his gun, would it? Well,
guns. He has a couple.
No, I don’t
think it would.
So, Grandma, why aren’t people like
Erica’s dad okay with having background checks required for anyone who wants to
buy a gun, no matter where the gun is being sold? Wouldn’t that be good for them, all the
people who would have no problem getting a gun even after they are
investigated? Wouldn’t that be something
they should want too, to at least not make it easier for criminals to
get guns?
That makes
sense to me.
And Grandma, what about guns that can
shoot a lot of bullets really fast?
What about
them?
I understand all about the Second Amendment and all that. But when the Constitution
was written they didn’t know how powerful guns would get. Just like you, I’m not saying that people
have to give up their right to their guns.
I’m just wondering why they insist on having the kind of gun that was
used to shoot all those little kids at school?
If there hadn’t been that type of gun for sale in the stores or at shows,
maybe not so many kids would have been killed. Isn’t that something else that
would be good for all of us, especially if they don’t make people go through background
checks? The criminals or the poor people
that are sick and need help at least wouldn’t be able to harm or kill as many
people at one time. Wouldn’t that be
another way we could compromise? So
Erica’s dad could still have every right to guns, he just wouldn’t be able to
have one like armies use. But our army
would have them, so really I don’t think he would be able to say he needs that
kind. And if they aren’t sold he would
be on an equal ground with everybody else who has a gun.
Natalia, sweetheart,
some people really believe that they have to protect themselves against the
army and the government. So for them,
your solution would be the last thing they would agree to.
But Grandma! Really?!
Do they think they could right now win a fight with the army? They don’t have drones, rocket missiles and
tanks. No way could they protect
themselves against that stuff.
What you say
makes a lot of sense. I don’t know if
they would consider your thoughts, though.
But tell me what would be done with all the high powered guns on the
market now?
Well, I can think of something.
.
Like what?
No one who already has any of those
kinds of guns would have to give them up.
That’s too complicated and everyone would just argue and not agree
anyway. They could keep them. But no one could buy anymore. Instead, the army would buy them. The army could also buy those that are in
warehouses or are just now being manufactured.
No one would lose money that way.
That’s a solution.
Well, any
change has to start somewhere. That
sounds like a good beginning and a fair one.
Can you think of any reason why that wouldn’t go over?
Maybe the gun manufacturers make more
money on those guns? I don’t know, but
wouldn’t they cost more than regular guns?
So, if they do, companies who make the guns wouldn’t like that idea,
would they?
I certainly
doubt it, sweetheart.
I’m only one person. And I’m just a kid. Maybe if a lot of people tried to think of
ideas together we could come up with something.
But, there is one other thing that I
REALLY, REALLY don’t understand, Grandma.
You know how we Christians talk about Jesus on the Cross? I’ve been thinking about it. Didn’t Jesus have every right to get down and
not die? If He chose not to; if He was
willing to give up His life, why do so many grown-ups who are Christians talk
so much about their rights to have guns, whatever kind they want and as
many as they want? We’re supposed to be
like Him and love others more than we love ourselves. So why won’t they give up even just a little? Wouldn’t they want to see people be willing
to do at least something to try and make little kids safer at school if it were
their kids or grandchildren who died?
Wouldn’t that be a loving, unselfish thing to do? I just don’t understand.
I’m afraid,
Natalia honey, that I don’t understand either.
Not at all.
Saturday, June 13, 2015
Facing A New Stage In Life
Somewhere along life’s path of the
last few years I found I have a number of cervical spine issues. I was initially told I
would be a very poor candidate for neck surgery; that the result would be
limited mobility afterwards. A recent check up with the doctor found I now also
have a number of problems in my lower spine.
I was told I am slowly, over time, becoming paralyzed. I asked about a time frame, but was told
there is no way to tell. So, it is now
suggested that I meet with a surgeon in order to make an informed decision
regarding surgery; that perhaps limited mobility might be preferable to a loss of
strength and stamina. Of course, I am
hoping the surgeon will see things differently.
In the meantime, I have to decide what to do about continuing to work,
how to spend my time and energy, etc. I am doing just fine. However, about two weeks ago I could not go
the hospital for my volunteering shift.
And I wanted to go see my
babies! That’s when discouragement set
in. So, I had to give myself a pep talk,
which was very helpful and just what I needed.
The following somewhat summarizes my thoughts and is an attempt to see
where I am and how life might change for me.
Allan and I
were once at the beach late in the afternoon, during the off season, just
enjoying a walk. We lost track of time
and failed to pay attention to how quickly the sun was setting. It seemed that all of a sudden it was
difficult to see where the beach ended and the ocean began. The access path appeared hidden to us; the
entire beach and ocean seamless to our eyes.
Given that it was the Fall of the year, there weren’t any property
owners in residence who were turning on house lights. Scary!
I awoke this
morning thinking of that experience.
Within a few minutes I got a mental picture of the ocean and beach as
reflective of exactly where I am in life.
I see myself caught in a rip current, one that was unpredictable to
me. I saw none of the signs. There didn’t appear to be any foam on the
waves. I didn’t see a strip of the ocean
water that was different in color from the surrounding waters; nothing. I just didn’t see it coming.
So, I am
currently swimming parallel to the shore, as I should; all the while assessing the
situation in order to know when I might begin to swim towards shore. The rip current all of a sudden seems too
wide and I am getting tired.
The sounds
of the ocean, the surf, the birds overhead, the swaying of the beach grass on
the various mounds; all of them seem to be a chorus singing to me to stop
struggling, to accept the tide; to let it take me where it will. As if that harmony were not enough, I see
that twilight is on the horizon. This foreshadowing
is frustrating and I am trying to figure out how to change the story; how to get
back to the coast. The powerful wave of discouragement washes over me. That’s when I realize my physical struggle is
not as dangerous as the mental and emotional battle I might be facing.
So, I fight
the urge to abandon hope. I need and
want to see clearly what I must do when I reach the shoreline. I must first of all accept that my life won’t
be like getting to walk the firm ground near water’s edge, at least not very
often. It will more often probably be
more comparable to plodding my way through the deepest part of the sand. That walk is so much more tiring and so much
slower, but it is walking nonetheless.
As I trudge
my way I will have to search the sand underneath my feet for shells that I
would previously have passed over as I was walking with energy and
stamina. I will have to be looking for
shells that are broken, but are still beautiful and special; shells that can
make a handful of gathered shells more lovely and interesting. I will need to think about how I can make my
handful as lovely and pleasing as possible.
I will have
to accept that I am walking the beach at dusk; not sunrise. And sometimes I might find myself feeling
lost and unsettled just as Allan and I did that late afternoon. I will have to wait until someone reaches out
and helps me find my way. Or I will have
to wait until a light appears to show me the way. I will have to stay focused on the fact that
I can still walk somewhere on the beach.
There is still something of beauty to appreciate and enjoy. And maybe most importantly of all, I will
have to remember that those of us who are higher up on the beach can wave and
encourage loved ones who are still totally immersed in the water or running
with strength along its edge. Come to
think of it, further up on the beach is where the lifeguard sits, isn’t
it?
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